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A Great Tool for Embracing Change: The 90 Second Rule

A Great Tool for Embracing Change: The 90 Second Rule

I’ve been listening to an audio program in my car that I find really helpful, presented a coach named Jim Fannin.  Take a 7-minute break to listen to this YouTube video that explains the technique as it can be applied to family relationships.

This is just an introduction to a program with several other simple, effective techniques that Jim teaches.  These are techniques that can be used in just about any situation, whether you are being cut off in traffic (grrrr), relating to others at home or at work, improving health and losing weight, or managing people and running a business.

One of the key points he makes on the first CD of this series is that the average person has 2500 or more thoughts each day, while peak performers have fewer thoughts, maybe 1000 or 1500.  That seems paradoxical, doesn’t it?  But in reality we are bombarded with a constant flow of interruptions and distractions: traffic noise, the ping from email, text messages, phone calls, knocks on the office door, and the biggest distraction of all – our own wayward thoughts, many of them dwelling on the negative.  If we can take 90-second breaks to “breathe like a baby” and to “re-boot our minds” as Jim suggests, we are then able to control our emotions and focus our efforts more effectively.

Try it – it works.  It slows down the merry-go-round of contemporary life and thus prevents the mental and emotional “dizziness” that can accompany coping with constant change.

You can find the 90 Second Rule Audio Program on Jim’s website, at the Nightingale Conant website, or on Amazon.  I find Jim a compelling teacher, perhaps similar to Jim Rohn, a great teacher and one of my all-time favorite business philosophers.

Rohn said, “Either you run the day or the day runs you. “  Jim Fannin’s program provides you with a handy toolbox of techniques to manage your daily life more effectively.

After DemoFall2009

After DemoFall2009

What a wild ride!  Demo.com and San Diego – what a fabulous combination.  I must say that the Demo.com folks are an amazing group!  Totally organized, very friendly, helpful, and super high energy!  We were thrilled to be launching there amidst so much tech talent and brainpower.

I was particularly impressed with Emo Labs www.emolabs.com from my old stomping grounds in Waltham, Mass. and Web on Weels at www.weelscorp.com a great keyboard-free browser developed by talented undergrads.  All of the wonderful companies can be seen at Demo.com the DemoFall2009 alumni.

Plus it is a relief to be out of “Stealth-Mode” and be able to talk about our private, enterprise focused business networking and development tool! As our Founder and CEO says: “We do one thing well – Relationships, Relationships, Relationships, Relationships…..”

SOME OF THE BUSINESS PROBLEMS WE HELP YOU SOLVE:

• Think of all your contacts in your Outlook? Which ones are outdated? We help you keep them up to date – automatically.
• Can you name ALL the people in your company that have a relationship at another company you are interested in? Now you can find out, without having to upload them into your company’s contact database – so you control your relationships.
• How would you like access to your trusted colleagues contacts in a mutually agreeable manner, remaining private and anonymous if desired?

If you’d like to try us out – use coupon “NCORRES” when registering – choose Gold Membership.  You’ll get three months free Gold Membership. Visit us at www.whodoyouknowat.com.

Social Network Overload

Social Network Overload

I think I have officially crossed the line of sanity with regards to Social Networking Sites.  I need a “Social Network Secretary” just to keep track of them all.  And I know I am not making best use of them – I’m not “working” them like the master networkers do.

If you think I am exaggerating here is a partial list of the sites I belong to, who are either self-proclaimed Social Networking Sites or have evolved in that direction:

  1. Plaxo
  2. Linkedin (and several subgroups of Linkedin)
  3. Brightfuse
  4. Myspace
  5. Facebook
  6. Brijj
  7. Ning (and several subgroups of Ning)
  8. Salesconx
  9. TooStep
  10. Konnects
  11. Xing
  12. Jigsaw
  13. GoodTree
  14. YourCause

I am drowning in emails asking for connections, adds, or to help find someone to fill an open job req.  And I am overloaded.  I love the concept, I do.  I just need to figure out how to manage it all.  And to that end, I invite suggestions and comments.

One must remember that even though they use the word “Social” in their descriptions and often have a lot of “Social” activity – the sites were meant to fill a functional need.  The tools are not universally compatible.  They allow you to plunder your MS Outlook contact list, but are not very easily downloaded back to that list (for example I fried the motherboard of my favorite laptop last winter and would have greatly benefited from being able to recreate my contact list on my new laptop). Some of the lists give you a certain amount of privacy, others let it all hang out – so to speak.

The members are as varied as the applications – some are avid “collectors” of connections – some do not respond to polite inquiry of any kind. 

At some point I expect that there will be a collapse of the sites, and one or two major players will emerge.  But I don’t think it will be the big guys that are in the ring right now… somewhere someone with a fresh approach and the ability to accommodate a variety of true networking needs will rise to the occasion and blow the others out of the water.

In the meantime, I am grateful for my rolodex – which is how I still keep track of my website memberships and passwords even in this electronic age.  I will continue to slog through the sites, looking for my Xanadu of networking.

ADDENDUM: 8/26/08 – http://bits.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/05/13/steering-between-unsocial-networks-and-social-spam/ This is the other big issue with Social Networking…well, one of the other issues.